Transition From Online To Realtime

Written by Serene-Death

Many of us make OR wish to make the transformation from an on-line to real-life relationship. For obvious limitations of Web-based interactions It is not always roses and moonshine. There are way too many unsavory beings out there to blithely make this change. Often times, people are hardly what they seem like online.

So what are the precautions to take to ensure that you are safe while doing so? What are the things to know or be on the look out for? This article endeavors to answer these questions and aids in giving you a know-how of the ways to make this transformation smooth and safe for you. 

• First and foremost, Try and keep the meeting in a public place bustling with activity. A coffee-shop or restaurant would be your best bet. This ensures that if things don't work out well, your companion will be restricted from causing a scene or more.
• Tell at least one close friend, who you are meeting and where - and also schedule a safety phone call or text message. 
•  That brings me to another important safety measure. ALWAYS have your own mode of commute during this first meet. Even better would be to have a friend pick you up from the venue of your date at a fixed time-frame.
• You could also decide to meet in a public munch and have some friends around you.
• A reasonably long real life courting/dating period would be good because some nuances of a personality come to light only after some time is spent face to face.
• If the meet signals the beginning of physical intimacy, get relevant blood tests done prior to it and exchange results. It is very important in the present era.

Now, lets look at a few things that should raise red flags once you meet real time.

• Any gross lack of similarity between pictures offered and their real appearance.
• General lack of cleanliness & hygiene. It surely shows carelessness. 
• Deception of any sort, such as " I did not have the courage to tell you this before but I am actually married".
• Anything that tells you instinctively that something is off. Trust your gut feeling. Nature has given you an inbuilt bullshit radar. Never fail to listen to it and act on it!
• If he/she seemed receptive to certain aspects of your relationship before but balked when it was mentioned in person or if there are gross discrepancies in behavior, it is time to take a step back and rethink.
•  Constant, intrusive questions about members of the opposite sex in your life is another warning sign.
• Showing up often at your doorstep or workplace unannounced, for a surprise visit after the first meet. It could indicate a stalking pattern. 
• Questions about your income is normal if you are planning a cohabit sometime in the future. Questions about your savings account OR Investments is not.
• Apart from all of the above, please remember that you don't need to 'prove' that you're a Dom/Sub/Switch by doing a particular activity/behavior. If that is any sort of defining factor in the interaction, it should raise red flags.

From my experience, keeping the first meet informal is one of the best ways to get a feel of your prospective partner. Put your D/s roles aside. Meet casually. Leave your rituals and postures at the door. Because, no matter how well versed your partner is in the ways of Gor/submission, it is what lies beneath it all that matters when it comes to the longevity of your relationship outside of the INTERNET.

You are now ready to take that leap of faith, with a sturdy safety net! Good luck!